You have been with your man for a while now. You have tried new sex positions. You have replaced some of your pajamas with sexy lingerie. You have even invested in a few sex toys. But your mate still wants more. He wants to explore his fantasies and he wants you to come along for the ride. What do you do?
As much as it is important to acknowledge, embrace, and address your mate’s requests for naughty indulgences; it is also important to define your limits, boundaries and to understand the potential negative effects on the relationship. If you’re struggling with deciding whether to be fantasy friendly or fantasy reserved, allow EGL to help you with the following tips.
Determine if you’re ready to turn his fantasies into your reality:
Assess for Regrets- If you are going to submit to your man’s sexual fantasy, you must do so with no foreseeable regrets. If you are uncomfortable with the request and the idea of the fantasy, then you might want to consider being more reserved. Embracing sexual fantasies can enhance the connection between you and your boo, or it can tear you two apart.
Have Trust- First and foremost, if there is a trust issue within the relationship, those should most likely be resolved before deciding to explore sexual fantasies. your partner could prevent some unforeseen issues between you in the future. You two must be able to trust that by opening the door to fantasy, doors wont also open up to infidelity, deceit, secrets, or unrealistic expectations of daily fantasy activity.
Declare and Accept Boundaries- There should be a discussion about the “do’s” and “don’t’s” during the sexual activity. Each party should acknowledge and accept these guidelines in order to ensure that no lines are crossed.
Like any other critical decisions made in relationships, it is important to weigh the pros and cons before taking sexual risks. Respect one another’s fantasies but also respect the apprehension that might arise when discussing these desires. Fantasy doesn’t have to black and white. If you man’s fantasy is just too far outside of your comfort zone, try to find other ways to bring excitement to the relationship!