Men definitely tend to rely heavily on visual cues; but even regardless of this fact, physical attraction is significant to the foundation of any relationship. However, in a committed relationship, physical attraction becomes way more than just the visual cues; therefore changes to one’s physical appearance shouldn’t be harmful to the overall relationship. Weight gain, certainly, shouldn’t become an overly critical, judgmental and despondent shadow on any healthy, thriving relationship.
When your man is invested in you and your well-being, he will want to support and encourage you about your weight. Your man may have concerns about your weight and overall health as it pertains to the trajectory of your relationship (marriage, children, etc), not merely out of concern for how the weight will effect physical attraction. He should want to promote your health and ability to be active for the long-haul.
So yes, if you have a strong foundation in your relationship it is very realistic to expect that your man, a real man, will love you the same, despite a few extra pounds. However, we must also expect that he may want you to maintain your health by continuing to practice a wellness regimen including diet and exercise, once again, primarily for the sake of your future together. If your man is truly down for you, he will encourage you without insulting you. He should help you find ways that you can get back in shape and if he’s really serious, he will join you in your journey. Now that’s love and faithfulness! But be careful that you never use your man’s unconditional love as a reason to make you complacent with unhealthy weight gain. Yes he will love you with the weight, but it’s still not okay to live an unhealthy lifestyle!
Keep this in mind as you enjoy your holiday treats: true love requires a healthy heart!
Weigh in on this ladies; How would you want your man to address your extra pounds?
By: Essence Cohen